When people find out I’m a therapist, they often imagine calm. Someone endlessly patient, grounded, and perfectly organised. I sometimes wish they could see the inside of my head instead, the lists that multiply, the tabs that stay open, the way I can forget what I walked into a room for while remembering every detail of something a client said…

Modern dating has its own dictionary now, a whole language of shorthand for feelings we can’t quite name. The ick. The spark. The slow burn. Each one is supposed to mean something clear about attraction or compatibility. But human connection is rarely that simple. I think about how much of our idea of love has been sold to us, through…

I’ve always hated exercise. Not the movement itself, but everything around it — how it’s sold to us, what it’s supposed to mean. For most of my life, exercise was tangled up with shame and “shoulds.” It was about fixing, burning, earning, or proving. The endless messages about how we should look, move, or measure up had already stripped away…

For so many neurodivergent women, life has been a long lesson in being “too much” and “not enough” at the same time. Too emotional, too sensitive, too intense. And yet also not organised enough, not disciplined enough, not together enough. The rules seem to shift depending on who’s watching. I know this feeling in my bones. As an autistic ADHD…

You’ve probably heard the phrase: “Am I the drama?” It’s become a funny sort of cultural shorthand for those moments when we catch ourselves wondering if we might actually be the one adding tension to a situation. I’ll admit, I’ve used it at home more than once. I sometimes joke with my kids that I need a sign at the…

There’s something powerful about the way Taylor Swift connects with her fans. It’s not just the music, it’s the authenticity. She shows up as her full, vulnerable self, not hiding the parts that aren’t fashionable or in vogue. She shares the silly, the sentimental, the heart-broken and the fiercely independent – and somehow, her following honours all of it. That’s…

Halloween is a funny time of year. For a few hours, fear becomes something we play with. Children dress up as witches, vampires, or ghosts. We walk through haunted trails waiting for a jump scare. We tell stories about shadows and monsters. I used to love dressing up with my children and taking them trick or treating, and I still…

When I think about the clients I meet, and even about my own life, I often come back to this: so many of us never learned how to name or manage our emotions. We were not shown how to listen to our bodies, or how to notice what feelings were telling us. Instead, many of us were told to get…

Every October, World Mental Health Day appears in the news cycle. For some, it feels like just another awareness day among many. For me, it carries a deeper weight. I live, eat, and breathe mental health every single day. It is part of my work, part of my relationships, and part of my own lived experience. I have struggled with…

As the darker months draw near, many people begin to notice subtle shifts in mood, energy, and motivation. For some, this goes beyond the occasional “winter blues” and becomes something more persistent. Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, is the name often given to this pattern, a form of depression that follows the seasons, most commonly appearing in late autumn and…