For so many neurodivergent women, life has been a long lesson in being “too much” and “not enough” at the same time. Too emotional, too sensitive, too intense. And yet also not organised enough, not disciplined enough, not together enough. The rules seem to shift depending on who’s watching.
I know this feeling in my bones. As an autistic ADHD woman, I’ve lived most of my life pushing myself through burnout cycles, masking exhaustion, doing what other people seemed to find easy, and convincing myself that I just needed to try harder. For years I didn’t have the language to understand why self-compassion felt impossible or why setting boundaries made me feel guilty, unsafe, or like I was letting people down.
In the last year, I’ve been slowly rebuilding. Slowing down and listening to my body instead of overriding it and questioning the old stories I carried. And I’ve realised something important: neurodivergent women are often conditioned to survive by pleasing, performing, and staying quiet about our needs. Many of us don’t know what boundaries look like when they aren’t rooted in fear or shame.
This is what inspired me to create the ND Women’s Self-Compassion and Boundaries Group.
It’s an eight-week online therapeutic group for women who recognise themselves in the overwhelm, the burnout, the masking, the people-pleasing, and the exhaustion that comes from constantly bending yourself into shapes that keep other people comfortable.
But more than that, it’s a space to breathe. A space where you don’t have to mask, a space where you don’t have to explain your brain before you speak. A space where your sensitivity, depth, and intensity aren’t flaws but information.
Each week, we gently explore topics like masking and identity, emotional responsibility, self-worth, ND burnout, sensory needs, the shame that often sits underneath people-pleasing, and the fear that comes with saying no. It’s not about forcing change or pushing yourself. It’s about learning how to relate to yourself with more kindness and less pressure. It’s about building boundaries that feel safe enough for your nervous system to hold. And it’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that got lost in the chaos of surviving.
I want this group to feel like something I needed years ago. A group that helps you understand why compassion feels so difficult, why your needs feel inconvenient, why relationships can feel heavy, and why it’s not your fault. A group that acknowledges the reality of ND women’s lives: the sensory overload, the emotional depth, the internalised expectations, the exhaustion of doing everything yourself, the pain of pretending everything is fine.
It’s also intentionally small, with a maximum of 6–8 women. I want everyone to feel safe, contained, and seen. And because my individual session rate is £80, I’ve made the group £360 in total, with Pay in 3 available, so it’s more accessible without losing the depth of therapeutic work. Early bird price of £300 for those signing up first when places are released.
If you’re reading this and part of you is thinking “this might be for me”, or “I’m tired of doing everything alone”, or “I need somewhere I don’t have to mask or apologise for being overwhelmed”, then I’d love for you to register your interest. It isn’t a commitment. It just means you’ll get early access when booking opens and can decide in your own time.
You can register your interest here: https://forms.gle/jgdG1xggTMrRFaJr5
And if you have questions, you can always message me. You’re not alone in this. The journey back to yourself doesn’t have to be something you do quietly in the background. Sometimes the gentlest changes happen when you’re witnessed by people who understand.
